6 Things That May Be Ruining Your Marriage (and you don’t even know it)
Geplaatst op 12-06-2025
Categorie: Lifestyle
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Have you ever felt like there was something wrong in your relationship, but you just couldn’t put your finger on the cause? A lot of times, it’s an easy fix. That’s only when you can identify your problem. Well, sometimes the problems aren’t as clear and could be right under your nose. Here are 6 things that may be ruining your marriage and you don’t even know it.
1. Reality TV.
No, you don’t believe everything you see because you are a strong individual that’s not easily impressed and you are your OWN person. However, it’s just like the old saying, “Garbage in…garbage OUT!” If all you see is and entertain yourself with is dysfunctional relationships, angry women, and non-committal foolishness, then what’s in your subconscious when you have a disagreement or an argument? Sometimes you have to fast from the ever so popular “ratchet relationships”, especially if you have you’re starring in your own dysfunctional reality.
2. Your Family.
It’s not the outwardly mean mother-in-law or the sister that doesn’t like you. It could be as simple as your own mother getting a little too involved (out of love) in your relationship. Rule number one…Keep your family out of your private matters. Family members tend to take your side whenever there is a problem. So, when you let them into your marriage space and tell them about your problems, they park there. After you have forgiven your honey and moved on, they are still harboring resentment and will conveniently throw your past in your face and that’s never a good thing.
3. Social Media.
We are all cyber-connected these days and everyone wants to show off “happy” pictures, the “good life” and them “ballin’”. Well, when you’re surrounded by all of these images and YOUR relationship isn’t all roses…Guess what? Your problems seem magnified times TEN when you start flipping through you phone looking at pictures of happy couples and what APPEARS to be people without any problems. NEWS FLASH!! Everyone has their share of problems and all that is glittering could be cubic zirconia! The human mind is powerful. Don’t play down your relationship and the beauty of your union by “liking” and “following” the Joneses.
4. Your Health.
Did you know that stress, low blood sugar levels and even medications can cause severe mood swings. They can even cause a decrease in your sex drive. Common stressors are our jobs, our children and our finances. So, the cycle continues: your job stresses you, you come home to your mate, you have issues, you lose sleep, you’re back at work, only to come back to the same stressors. Let’s stop right there and make some changes. Identify the stressors (or toxic people) in your life. Then, slowly replacing them with positive things that only cause you happiness. Remember, your family only has one YOU, so take care of yourself…love yourself first and the rest will fall in line.
5. Your past. Let it go!!
If there is one thing we can learn from Iyanla Vanzant – Fix My Life, is that we have to let go of our past and live with the gift of the PRESENT! If you have forgiven your mate for their infidelity, DO IT! Don’t wallow in the mire of your sorrow. Go through the proper channels and heal yourself and release that pain. If you grew up without a father or you had an abusive past…Don’t let those demons of yesterday take up the space in your heart and live rent-free! Your spouse has already paid for it. It’s THEIR space now…
6. You!
Don’t be so quick to blame your spouse for issues in your marriage. Before you can truthfully point the finger, you should take a little self-inventory and ask yourself a few questions. Why is it so important that my spouse sees things from MY perspective? Am I doing everything I can to be a loving and contributory spouse in this relationship? Would I even marry myself? Just a few things to ponder.
Can you think of any issues that can potentially ruin a marriage?